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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The details don't matter. This boils down to one thing. The OP and her DH have different understands of how their vacation is going to work. It causes conflict, and it seems to primarily play out in disappointment for the kids.

It doesn't matter where they are, what they're doing, or even if they're on vacation. It's a difference in expectations — he's under the impression that his nap is a given. No one else is. Maybe he's a lazy slob, maybe he's porn addicted or maybe she just had the idea he would be a more involved parent than he's wiling to be.

The solution is a conversation—these vacations aren't workin the way I'd like to and the kids would like to spend more time with you. If his answer is "tough, I don't care", then she has to make a decision. Separate vacations or the kids learn to deal.

This isnt' complicated, we don't need to debate much more. Make it clear your DH isn't meeting expectations, give him an opportunity to meet them, take the appropriate course of action if he won't. [/quote]

Bumping this.

It's different expectations. Maybe she's right, maybe he's got apnea. She and the kids have a different understand of what they want from vacation. She needs to tell him—it sounds like he doesn't like hearing he isn't going to get his way, but hopefully he listens. Before all you nuts jump down my throat, maybe the solution is the kids learn to accept that when on vacation Dad just isnt' going to hang. That's fine, I guess. But right now they still think he will. If I were him, I would take that as a huge compliment and do my best to accomodate.[/quote]

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