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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH is like this but I don’t judge him for it.  I take the kids for ice cream and let them run around a town square while I sit with a glass of wine and a book, or we go to the pool.  Or they also chill and play video games for 2 hours if they want while I read on a terrace.  It’s fun![/quote]

Sounds like you have less ambitious vacation plans, which is fine. It sounds like you and your DH are on the same page about how vacations go. I think the issue is OP's DH has decided what kind of vacation HE is having, and everyone else can really just eff off, because he doesn't care what they want.[/quote]

It honestly sounds to me like OP has decided she wants to go-go-go on vacation and is mad her DH doesn’t.  I doubt the kids love slogging around.  Usually we have 1-2 slog days when driving from place to place, etc. and everyone sucks it up because they know tomorrow will be better, [b]but constant pushing isn’t enjoyable for anyone.[/b][/quote]

Like I said, sounds like you're not a super ambitious person. That's fine. Make sure your spouse has similar low ambitions and it'll be fine. And look, if you've spent $250 a night to go to the Jellystone Park in Williamsport, sure... don't do anything. But if you've flown your kids to Greece or Cabo, put in the effort, otherwise what's the point?[/quote]

Ambition has nothing to do with vacation style.

The point is to have fun, not to post a pic of every fresco in northern Italy on Instagram.  We travel a lot and have learned the quickest way to be miserable abroad is to be on a tight time schedule, as the locals aren’t. Plus, European cities often build in rest in the afternoon and go later at night.  In Spain it is weird to eat dinner before 9pm.  We were just in Eastern Europe, and things closed from 4-6 pm.  That’s the time to take a pause yourself.  Try it.[/quote]

So, if your DH is willing to take his nap from 4-6, it sounds like everything works great. But the OP's DH is apparently inflexible and unwilling to compromise—he's going to take it when he wants to take it. See, the difference?

Also, maybe you don't like art, but another family does. Don't be judgey, be thoughtful.[/quote]

Try it yourself.  Apparently this DH doesn’t like art more than his nap.  I bet he would be fine resting from 4-6 instead of 2-4.  OP isn’t going to let him.

I love art and architecture.  I see a lot of it on our trips.  I read about it ahead of time and enjoy knowing what I am looking at.  I can get all that in 6 hours instead of 8.  So could OP — and she could go see some of the less significant pieces while her DH naps.  Easy.[/quote]

She specifically said he won't budge on time. Doesn't care what the activity is.[/quote]

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