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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The way to disrupt the constant hunger is to work. Teens should be busy working or volunteering so that they aren't always eating. Mine works a FT summer job and does power washing on the weekends. He eats regular meals and has no time for snacking.[/quote]

Mine could not be busier-- after school activities, two sports (one travel).  Doesn't get home from school/camp until after 3 or 4, leaves for sports most night at 6.  Still finds time to snack and overeat.  (See all threads above about how they get fed at so many of these activities).

All these parents with kids who don't have eating issues are so certain it wouldn't happen to their kids.  You are not better parents or better at helping your kids be healthy: you are lucky your kid has good genes.
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If you know he’s overeating outside the home, feed him less at home.  Have absolutely zero junk available at home.  You can only control what you can control, but it sounds like you want to just throw up your hands and blame it all on bad luck or bad genes.[/quote]

You're so smart-- you have all the answers-- no junk food and feed a kid less, why didn't I think about that?

Such smug parenting. I seriously -- truly-- hope you never have a child struggle with their weight.  Though, I kind of wish more of you did because then you'd understand how hard it is.[/quote]

Just do the math. Lower the calories and they will lose weight. You don't even need to do extra activity although it's always good to move more.

It's pretty easy to control a child's food choices up until they earn their own money (or someone gifts them a lot of it). The parents who give their kids huge allowances then complain that they buy junk food and high calorie Starbucks drinks. Stop giving them $25/week. [/quote]

Ok, no it’s not.  Kids that have a tendency to overeat, will overeat just about anything.  You can’t have a carb free household.  They can make their own food if they want to.  Many teens have part time jobs and get money from relatives for birthday.  They can offered plenty of Starbucks without your help.  Again, a parent cannot control the food intake of a teen.  They have to want to eat less overall and say to to the junk. If they don’t want to or can’t, you cannot make them[/quote]

Go ahead. Let your 7 yr old overeat the cantaloupe. I promise it won't make her gain weight. Teens aren't getting jobs until 15 at the earliest. If you have provided 15 years of healthy foods in your home, the chance that they will become overweight after that is pretty low. [/quote]

Actually it is sky high.  Over 70% of adults are overweight.  By the time your teen is adult, chances are they will be too[/quote]

Maybe in certain demographics but not UMC teens. I work in a Title 1 school and I see those demographics every day. When I pick my kid up at his private HS, not even 1/3 of the kids are overweight. [/quote]
70% of adults of all ages are fat. 70% of college kids are not fat, but you are probably assuring your kid to be fat their entire life [b]if you let them [/b]enter their teens fat [/quote]

No one is "letting" their kids be fat.  We are all parenting in an age where unhealthy food is everywhere. Some kids' bodies know to stop at one slice of pizza at the camp pizza party, some kids crave two.  Some kids don't think about food unless it's in front of them, some kids brains are always thinking about food.  You are lucky if your kid is the former.

I am the parent of an overweight DD.  I am thin, I work out pretty much every day.  We don't have chips/soda in out house. We emphasize protein and complete nutrition...and still my kid is overweight.  Yes she is overeating.  Yes we are trying to help her.  But it is not a failure of parenting.  It is a failure of willpower, and if it was easy to overcome, 70 percent of Americans would not be overweight.[/quote]

So, you’re sitting there and watching her overeat? Are you portioning the food out? Are you saying, “you’ve eaten enough?” [/quote]

So you think PP should do that at the camp pizza party? Yikes. [/quote]

It’s not the camp pizza party or the teacher handing out starbursts. It’s the daily day in day out of what these kids are eating at home and what they were taught about eating at home.[/quote]

That particular poster said she did not keep junk in the house and served nutritious food. So is she supposed to smack the kids hand when they go for a Starburst or extra slice of pizza in public? [/quote]

If she is telling the truth then she needs to stop serving *so much* nutritious food.  Kids don’t get fat because of some starbursts here and there or the occasional pizza party.  The poster you responded to had it right, it’s the day in, day out habits learned at home.  This is not complicated.[/quote]

DP. Except that it is. My binge eating as a kid began as a direct result of my mom tightly controlling portion sizes. Growing bodies want what they want. [/quote]

Okay,  I stand corrected.  American fat kids are and have always been doomed to be fat and there’s not a damn thing their parents can do about it and it’s insane and smug to suggest that these parents even make an effort.

Thin children are thin purely due to the luck of the draw.  There are no good/bad, responsible/irresponsible parenting decisions being made along the way.  It’s out of our hands![/quote]

There were always overweight children-- kids who drank soda starting when they got it in their baby bottles, latchkey kids who came home right after school and whose parents brought home McDonalds after a long shift at work.

What you're missing is there are also kids -- like mine-- who play two travel sports, have had McDs exactly once, who are fed healthy foods and are still overweight.  Maybe she would be a healthier weight back when they weren't offered snacks all the damn time.  When I was growing up we had orange slices as a snack at literally every soccer game.  At her last tournament they had oreos, gatorade and granola bars.  Could I have approached her and said, "Hey don't eat any of that!" Of course.  Do I think that will really make things better? No.

So many of you think, I would never let my child be overweight.  And I envy you.  Because it's not that simple.  And your judgment comes across.  
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You need to be more directive. I told my kids from the get go that you don’t exercise and then stuff your body with crap afterwards, so, even if they took those garbage snacks to be polite, they wouldn’t actually eat them.

But, even though she’s older, same. Tell her to put the Oreos down because they are garbage or tell her to pick one thing. Why let have all three like a greedy glutton? I’m sure you don’t buy her all the toys, clothes, Stanley cups she wants, so why give in on letting her stuff herself with crap? Say, no.[/quote]

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