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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think people are overreacting to OP. I just think their point was that if you assume that everyone living in a million dollar (or more) home just has a very high income and is better at saving or financial management than you-- you are missing part of the picture. This is true of some people but many people are getting into those homes other ways often by inheriting money for a down payment or inheriting the house itself. I don't view this as a value judgment but just information. I think people in their 20s and 30s have a tendency to think that everyone in their same industry or with similar education background is working from the same resources and this misunderstanding actually LEADS to the jealousy and resentment people feel at times. But if you understand that people are working with very different resources and from different starting points then I find it harder to be resentful of it because it makes me realize that we are doing fine.

We have friends who were gifted large sums to buy homes. We also know people who inherited money or homes. We also know people with high incomes who could simply afford more house. We also know people who are just extremely scrupulous savers. And we know people who are some combingation of the above. The point is that everyone is on their own path and figuring out what works based on their situation. Understanding this liberated me to make choices that made sense for me and not worry about whether I was on the same page as peers becasue it turns out we just have very different lives and comparing doesn't make sense.

But that also cuts the other way. Occasionally I come across people who are impressed with themselves for what they have even though they have major advantages most people don't have. I roll my eyes at these peopel who I think are often naive and lack context. There are people who believe "everyone" gets money from their parents for a house or that "everyone's" parents paid for their education or will pay for their kids education. These people are as insufferable (perhaps more so) than people who complain all the time about things being unfair imo.[/quote]

But why compare at all? You presented this like the only options are to jealously stare at what other people have and either make assumptions or become resentful. You could also just focus on you and your family. Build your wealth. Create your joy. Appreciate what you have. Be grateful for your own life.

Your happiness is never in your neighbor's yard. It’s always on your own side of the fence. [/quote]

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