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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  She's here.  She brought her husband for some reason.  She knows it is awkward and they are avoiding me.  I am fuming.

Yes, it is my fault for saying yes.  I am horrible with conflict and am I am going to be a more selfish person in the future.  [/quote]

OP again.  Can I just reiterate how irritated I am that she brought her husband and the two of them are now in the room with the treadmill, watching them dismantle it.  He didn't even greet me; they walked past me as if I am the help.  So, yeah, I guess the PP who observed earlier that the "friendship" is just one of convenience to her was correct.

Anyway, thanks for those who commented here, even to tell me I'm irresponsible (I probably am).  This is something I've known I need to work on with myself (learning to back away from friendships that are one-sided).  I lost my parents young (in college) and I've long had a tendency to hold onto relationships I should let go because of that, I think.  I'm working on it with my online therapist.  I'm going to be more selfish and more guarded in my new location.  [/quote]

I think you seem abnormally angry at your friend. If I were picking up some large item, I would take my husband.

I have a treadmill and rower in my basement I want to get rid of. I would gladly give it to a friend.

You seem to think your treadmill is worth more than it is worth. You should have just sold it for $50 or $200 or whatever price someone would have paid for it. $200 seems very petty to be this upset and angry over.[/quote]

Because the "friend" is an a-turd.

She should have at least offered to take OP out for a nice meal, or given her a couple hundred dollars, or done something. OP didn't tell the friend that she'd be doing a favor to take the treadmill off her hands. The friend was being a vulture. (No offense to actual vultures, who are fine animals and an important part of the ecosystem.)[/quote]

I must have read OP’s post differently. The friend seemed to want to continue the friendship, visit OP, asked OP what is wrong, etc.

OP seems hyper focused on the treadmill that she is seething with resentment. Maybe I’m missing something.

I had a friend who moved out of the country recently. Her family were vultures. I guess it is ok if it is family but not a friend. She had furniture she spent thousands of dollars on that she would get hundreds for (10%).

I went and took a bunch of stuff.

This is what happens when people move. My friend absolutely was annoyed at how “greedy” her family was. They still are family.[/quote]

So you happily joined in with the other vultures? Are you proud of yourself? One of the worst things family members do to one another is "treat each other like family." People use that phrase to excuse a lot of rude and selfish behavior. We should treat our family more like honored guests since they are so important instead of treating them less than. [/quote]

We have a seven figure income. I am not a vulture. I have taken some kitchen supplies when I was in grad school and recently, my friend gave me some board games. They wanted me to take larger items but I didn’t want them. One friend wanted to sell her dining table to me and I didn’t want it. It was a very expensive table.[/quote]

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