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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve been thinking more about this post lately. Dh and I both have wealthy parents. One of our children has special needs. We don’t know what his adulthood will look like. I only know that as a parent, I’d want my children to never have to worry about whether they’d have enough money to get through retirement and make sure their special needs child or grandchild was also taken care of when they were gone. You never know what kind of circumstances you or your children/grandchildren will face.

My grandfather became very wealthy after surviving a traumatic childhood. I get the sense that he aimed to provide financial security for his family and grandchildren because it could have helped him escape the horrific things that happened to his family. I’m not talking about leaving a billion dollars to your kids, but at a 14M dollar level, I don’t think it’s a crazy amount of money to leave entirely split amongst several children. It’s life changing, but hopefully in a way that gives them freedom. I don’t understand Ops husbands mentality of wanting his kids to struggle. My grandfather specifically did not want his family to struggle like he had. He wanted them to achieve, but not struggle.[/quote]

I often think that people who say they struggled and learned so much that they want others to struggle too never actually struggled.  I'd never want my children or grandchildren to go through what I went through (or my parents went through, or my grandparents went through).  [/quote]

Our kids are fiscally responsible despite never having to struggle like my spouse and I did.  It is possible to raise kind caring responsible kids without having them grow up poor/without any extras.

Not all rich kids are spoiled brats.  In fact most are hardworking motivated kids.  They know it takes hard work and a good education to get far in life 
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We're talking about different groups of people.  You're talking about rich kids who are responsible, hardworking, and motivated.  You didn't let your kids struggle thinking that was the best (or only) way for them to turn out well (even though you struggled).  I agree with you.  Well done!  My post was about people (clearly not you) who claim their struggles were so beneficial that their kids should struggle too for the "benefits" of "struggling."  I don't think people who have truly experienced struggle just stand by and let their kids truly struggle too because they truly believe struggle was such a great thing.  I think they do what you did, give opportunities and teach kids the value of hard work and education (which is what I am doing also).    [/quote]

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