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You should wean her because, at 25 months, she is ready for a different kind of relationship with you. This is evidenced by the fact, frankly, that you seem to be reluctant to even put your foot down about it and establish yourself as the authority. Of course, "she is not ready..." why should she be?  She may not be ready to go to pre-school, or to elementary school, or to high school for that matter, either, but I can't imagine that you would maintain this posture on those subjects.

It is not natural for her, or for any child at this age, beyond the point that it is habit and comfort. But as children grow up, they need to receive comfort in a more mature form from their mothers. You not being ready for the fight is a very poor reason to base this decision on.  Sorry to be so blunt, but those are the facts...[/quote]

Lady.  STFU.  This is based on NOTHING.  [b]There is no biological or developmental basis for this position[/b].  You are making it up.

The helpful posters sneering gross, weird, inappropriate, etc. - these are not meaningful words.  They refer to your personal issues, not to biologically normal breastfeeding behavior.  You, too, are making it up.

When you talk about dependency and infantilizing, I *know* you don't know what you're talking about.  My child was remarkably independent, physically and emotionally.  She never had a smelly, tattered attachment object, either.  Why?  Her normal needs were being met, and she felt deeply loved and secure.

For her, and every other ebf child I know, nursing is a blissful memory of feeling completely relaxed, accepted, loved and nurtured.  All other comfort measures are a distant second, and preschoolers are doing more and harder mental and emotional work every day than most adults can comprehend.  They need and deserve the best comforts we can give the.  Why in the hell would you insist they be stripped of them sooner than absolutely necessary?  It's not about keeping them babies.  It's about giving them the highest launch point.  [/quote]

Sorry, toots, but you're wrong about this.  This has nothing to do with personal issues, except in your case, where it is obviuosly a hot button point. Are you always this defensive when you have no facts to stand on?[/quote]

Not the PP, but how is she wrong about this? Could you provide a link to a reputable, peer-reviewed article regarding the biological or developmental basis PP mentioned (that necessitates weaning at 25 months)? Thanks.[/quote]

PP again. I am still waiting on the excellent resources you must have to back up your opinion. Thanks![/quote]

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