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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree that children have the right to ask questions and OP seems to have cut the child off.

I would caution you OP that you may not have the full story about your brother and it IS possible he is battling something like chronic fatigue or mental illness that you aren’t privy to.  And sometimes treatment for that is impacted if you work, in terms of govt benefits.  Yes it’s possible he was raised poorly, is lazy etc but you yourself said you pulled away from the relationship back in his college days.  That was a long time ago and long enough for medical information to have popped up to explain some things (and for you not to have been kept in the loop).

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It's none of OP's business or her kid's business why her adult brother and adult parents have the arrangement they have. OP should focus on teaching her kid manners and social norms - this type of behavior will not endear him to peers or other adults.[/quote]

But the bro and parents are making it OP's business by imposing on her.  If it's none of her business than stop coming to OP for help.  Can't have your cake and eat it too[/quote]

In what way is he imposing on OP? He seems to come by for 1 night 3-4 times a year and gets dinner and breakfast. Oh and he brought his laundry. That's it. She could say no to the vista and/or the laundry. That's it. Nothing else is asked of her. This is far less than most family members expect from one another in terms of child care, money, emotional support, etc.[/quote]

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