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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone has said it well, but I’ll add… yeah, if he wants the car, he should get it.  [b]He makes 10x your salary[/b].  He’s already worked to fund significant savings.

I happen to think it’s a waste of money.  But, he probably thinks things I spend money on are a waste.  Plus 110k isn’t *that* much for a high end car these days.  It’s sort of the cheapest high end car you can get.  He could easily be pushing into the 150s without it being absurd.  [/quote]

I am baffled by the people who think the higher earner gets a bigger role in making decisions about the family finances[/quote]

What’s baffling about it?  [b]I think it’s always the people who earn less who think the person who earns more shouldn’t be able to spend a bit of it[/b].  Oh it’s not fair we can’t each have 110k cars?  Well, each of us don’t have jobs to afford 110k cars.[/quote]

No, it's not. Several commenters who are the higher earner have said that both spouses have veto power when it comes to more expensive purchases, and that general financial decisions should be made together. I'm a SAHM and my husband is a big law partner and he always asks for permission when purchasing something over 1K or so. What you are advocating for is actually financial abuse if there is a big income disparity. [/quote]

You’re describing a situation that isn’t occurring.  Sorry you’re self conscious about an income disparity.  But the subject was asked by the higher earner if he can.  And I said yes he should be able to, in part, because he earns the money.  Further, I didn’t say anything about discussing it, or not, in the universal sense.  The entire scenario here is after a discussion has already occurred.

The chip on your shoulder is really a burden, I can tell.[/quote]

It’s not a discussion if you believe the higher earner can just say “I want to do it I earn enough I’m buying it”. That’s a dictatorship and unhealthy[/quote]

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