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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]wtf with this obsession that you are an incubator. That’s not normal thinking.

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Well my mil proved that to be the case when she never asked how I was doing but worried just about my husband and then when the doctor thought our child might have some issues which he didn’t mil was all concerned hence the incubator comment. So no concern for her DIl the actual human being carrying the child. So I’m merely an incubator.

So you’re right it’s not normal to view someone as an incubator but you’re telling that to the wrong person tell that to mil.

I literally had co workers CO WORKERS give me cards when my pregnancy got really tough. With family they should care more than co workers.[/quote]

Do you try to control who your coworkers can speak to or do you act reasonably normal around them and allow them to speak to each other outside of your earshot?[/quote]

Again the issue was if it was a mundane innocent question my mil was asking my husband why wait until I was out of the room to ask it? That’s what makes me think it was a passive aggressive comment and there’s more that meets the eye to it.

During all of my pregnancy trouble she didn’t give a shit about how I was feeling or what I was going through but yet her precious baby boy seems a little tired and mommy needs to check up on him and fix it.

Doesn’t she realize that his wife will check up on him as his wife and make sure he is ok.[/quote]

No, a wife doesn’t all alone fulfill all her H’s needs, nor will a h fulfill all his W’s needs.[/quote]

Ok but I was going through a lot more major issues than my husband ever was and not once did my mil ask about me or show any concern.

Isn’t being tired kinda part for the course for a first time parent of a young baby?[/quote]

You said you switch off nights. You're getting a good night's sleep every other night. You don't realize how good you have it.[/quote]

No I don’t have it good simply bc my husband does his job as a father. What are we in the 1940s where a man gets praised for simply changing a diaper on his own child.[/quote]

Yes you do have it good. You're getting a good nights sleep because unlike the 1940s you don't have to do ALL the child care. How would that go for you? I'd actually feel bad for you if you were doing all the night wakings and someone dared to ask your husband why he looked tired. And no woman is going to tell another woman "you look tired" that means "you look like shit" and for sure your head would have exploded. Your MIL has your number.[/quote]

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