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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]wtf with this obsession that you are an incubator. That’s not normal thinking.

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Well my mil proved that to be the case when she never asked how I was doing but worried just about my husband and then when the doctor thought our child might have some issues which he didn’t mil was all concerned hence the incubator comment. So no concern for her DIl the actual human being carrying the child. So I’m merely an incubator.

So you’re right it’s not normal to view someone as an incubator but you’re telling that to the wrong person tell that to mil.

I literally had co workers CO WORKERS give me cards when my pregnancy got really tough. With family they should care more than co workers.[/quote]

Do you try to control who your coworkers can speak to or do you act reasonably normal around them and allow them to speak to each other outside of your earshot?[/quote]

Again the issue was if it was a mundane innocent question my mil was asking my husband why wait until I was out of the room to ask it? That’s what makes me think it was a passive aggressive comment and there’s more that meets the eye to it.

During all of my pregnancy trouble she didn’t give a shit about how I was feeling or what I was going through but yet her precious baby boy seems a little tired and mommy needs to check up on him and fix it.

Doesn’t she realize that his wife will check up on him as his wife and make sure he is ok.[/quote]

No, a wife doesn’t all alone fulfill all her H’s needs, nor will a h fulfill all his W’s needs.[/quote]

Ok but I was going through a lot more major issues than my husband ever was and not once did my mil ask about me or show any concern.

Isn’t being tired kinda part for the course for a first time parent of a young baby?[/quote]

It’s not a contest. There’s no such thing as the suffering Olympics.

You obviously had a hard pregnancy and are not handling the infant stage very well. But if I was your friend, I would ask how you were doing I wouldn’t say oh I’m not gonna ask you how you’re doing because my other best friend had a harder delivery. Do you get it?

It doesn’t matter if it’s par for course, people are allowed to ask you if you’re tired.

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Right but I thought I was part of mil’s family as well and she didn’t ask about me.

It’s not that I’m saying she asked about me but because I went  through worse she can’t ask about him as well.

She didn’t ask about me at all.

That’s like not asking about the friend who has cancer but then asking the friend who has a cold how they are holding up? It’s very tone deaf if you ask me.

A DIl is also family as well.[/quote]

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