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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I made my kid take piano lessons starting at age six.  She has some natural ability/talent, but has never had a lot of interest, and as the years went by pushback grew (I bribed her with tv time in exchange for practice time :)).  I told her she had to keep taking lessons until she started high school/9th grade.  My thinking was I wanted her to have the tools/foundation so that if she wanted to play in a band or whatever in high school, she could (my brother was in a band in high school and had an absolute blast - I was so envious!).  She is in 9th grade now, and took the fall semester off from the piano - but recently (in January) requested to/restarted lessons - she decided she wants to play in one of the school bands next year - my long game paid off - wowee!  Same with travel soccer - her interest has waxed and waned - but we made her stick with it (reassessing every year) - she made the high school varsity team in 9th grade and played a ton and had an absolute blast.  I guess I offer these examples in support of OP's post/topic, though I also agree with what some of the PPs have said - the kid has to have some talent/internal motivation to go along with the parental support/push (as a parent you can't make it happen if the kid doesn't have at least a modicum of interest and ability).[/quote]

My parents pushing me/my sibling on sports and instruments. It was pretty effective--I played at a high level, and my brother was a D1 athlete. It also seriously (and in my sibling's case, permanently) damaged our relationships. When I got to college, my dad said his #1 parenting regret is how much he pushed the instrument, and all the times we fought over practicing. He pushed it because he believed it was necessary for us to be successful. He came to the conclusion this was basically false, and he regretted the damage it had done. I have never played the instrument since graduating, and my brother loathes the sport.[/quote]

+1. My parents forced me to play the piano until I was 18, when I finally quit because I was an adult. They said I would miss the piano when I grew older, but that will never happen because I never want to touch a piano ever again.[/quote]

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