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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would they still fight for workforce accessibility/equality or accept that stay at home mom is better than working a full time job and not seeing their kids grow up? Did it provide the happiness it promised?

Saw this question being asked and I know what I would choose[/quote]

this is funny- I am a SAHM, my husband is nice, kids are lovely, we have a good life but If I could go back I'd hire help at home and go back to work when the kids were in school (the hours they were in school) and have someone do more of teh grunt work  even if it was all my salary b/c regardless of how 'kind' or cooperative the 'bread winner' is- their needs and preferences always take precedence over your own b/c teh family depends on him for survival. If I had been self sufficient I could've made very different choices instead of going along with things that ultimately have made me very unhappy lifestyle wise and I knew that and argued against it bit ultimately it comes down to what the employed person wants when push comes to shove and I am 45 and so so unhappy that its basically poisoned my marriage as well. I cant bear my husband b.c I think he's just a bully even when I know im being unreasonable. For people who earn as much a most DCUM do, you can work part time and have some cash of your own as well as seeing your kids. I dont regret the wonderful time. spent with them but I wish I had worked all the hours they were gone and we are in DC so they are  in school from 8-3 and then asleep at 7:30, 8 from the age of 3 onwards . I could've worked after they feel asleep as well.   And they get older so quickly, it's better to build up a career , step back for a decade but still hold on to it so that you have financial independence and can step back into it when kids are older, maybe it wont be millions but there are too many compromises when you are basically the tag along childcare.  especially b/c Wirth ppl who have 'bg jobs'- you are eating dinner alone, alone most nights any way, might as well work from 8pm-11pm and then 8am-3pm. [/quote]

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