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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids come as a set. They are close enough in age to go to same parties. Parents need to get over themselves and let kids be kids and play together. Im over all of these extra party rules. My kid / sibling has never been turned away FWIW.[/quote]

I have 3 kids. I don’t know anyone who thinks kids come as a set, not even twin moms.

When kids are young and in preschool, hanging out with multiple kids is ok. When kids attend elementary and kids are drop off ages, it is not ok to send big siblings as a set.[/quote]

Twin mom here. My girls are definitely a set. We should at least be exceptions to the rule. If both my girls cant go, im declining the invite. But it has never been a problem.[/quote]

Yeah, no. Stop treating your children like a matched set and see them as individuals. [/quote]

Are they allowed to be in different classes? Have different interests? [/quote]

If you are not a twin mom, you are clueless and should not speak on twin mom decisions. We have it hard enough. You basically sound like a childfree person telling you how to parent. Clueless! Those that get it- get it. [/quote]

Hahaha- delusional twin mom. I knew it. You guys think NO ONE has it harder than you. [/quote]

We DO have it harder at certain stages sweetheart! Its twice the work. YOU are delusional to think otherwise. In addition to my twins, they have an older sibling so I know how it is to parent one age at a time. Again, unless you are twin mom, you have no clue. My SET of twins go to the party together. [/quote]

I’m not the PP you’re arguing with, but I think you’re missing the point. I don’t decide the guest list for my child’s birthday party based on who has it the hardest. I invite my child’s friends. If your family situation (or health or anything else) is too hard or too complicated to enable your child to attend, it’s completely ok for you to rsvp no. I understand that. We have had to rsvp to plenty of birthday parties. [/quote]

Exactly. Twin moms think their challenges are unique and no one has it harder than them. And as the PP said, so now party invites are supposed to take into consideration everyone’s family circumstances? Of course, if a parent asks if they can bring a sibling due to spouse travel, whatever, that’s another story. [/quote]

Twin moms often makes the problem worse. My son is friends with a twin who is much smarter than his twin sister. One twin went to AAP and other didn’t. Mom treats them as individuals and like siblings more than twins.

I know other twin moms who stress about one twin being smarter or having more friends. If they treated them like individuals instead of twins, they could become more independent. I have a friend who had identical twins and she is always trying to make things equal. It seems like she is creating more stress for herself.[/quote]

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