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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Visiting anyone for a month is difficult.

[b]Living in a poor rural area is difficult[/b], more so if you don't know language and local culture.

Living with In-laws is difficult.

Traveling with young kids and uncooperative spouse is difficult.

I do have some questions.

Why you didn't visit before marrying him?
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Why you didn't research and prepare yourself?[/b]

Treat it as an adventure. Next time tell DH that either trip has to be shorter or he needs to let you pack accordingly.

At least you've good internet service and in-laws are nice.

I'm also from a third world country though middle class and from a big city, even i would have problems living in a poor rural town with a DH who is not helping find solutions because he is trying to prove something to his people.

You can have these discussions with DH later,for now make lemonade with your given lemons.
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Your premise is incorrect. She is not in a poor rural town. This is not her first trip. [b]She is in a fairly large town with all sorts of amenities available to her.[/b] Her ILs are not poor. Based on the pictures posted, they're at least middle class. She seems to have good internet. She claims she's lying awake hungry, not because there is no food, but because she refuses to eat it. And who the hell takes an electric pancake maker to a country with incompatible voltage requirements, when all you really need is a griddle (which, any home that makes parathas will have)? Either OP is incredibly stupid, or a troll. I suspect the latter.[/quote]

She said the nicest restaurant was dirty. Sounds like someone is trying way too hard to prove Bangladesh is nicer than it is. OP can't go out for coffee by herself. She's not going to a gym, swimming, or anything else she could do in the US. Dhaka would have stuff like that but not where she is now. 
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Go on and Google Maps  Serene Garden in Faridpur. There are LOTS of pictures of the inside of it. It's not a dump. There are also other restaurants nearby, including a waffle place, a burger place, Chinese, pizza, etc. OP is just a drama queen.[/quote]

Op here. I didn't say it was a dump but for being the nicest restaurant in Faridpur I expected the seat cushions wouldn't be stained and dirty. Read the reviews and you will see. My husbands family also isn't interested in going there. It's not something they value. We would have to drag them there and they are considered the restaurants aren't having good hygiene and we will get sick. Again it's a cultural thing.. The things we value in the US I.e. going out eating out isn't something his family values. I have to constantly ask to go to these places. For shopping, I insisted this morning and his family heard us fighting. I want my kids to dress up in Bengali clothes for holidays and it's easier to get the clothes here. Dh ents them to value his culture but then he doesn't teach them Bengal or buy them Bengal clothes. Buying Bengali clothes and household things is something I like to do. I want to combine the cultures. [/quote]

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