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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'll play Devil's advocate for a moment and ask if your son sees college as a gift to him vs. a gift to you. In other words, are you in social circles where kids expect that parents will handle college finances? DH and I paid for our own college but now are very privileged and have accounts set up for our kids. We've hinted to both our parents that rather than lavish gifts for the kids they could put money aside in their 529s. Both sets of grandparents have told our kids that their college is their parents' responsibility. Maybe, in addition to discussing how rude your kid is, talk about how it is a gift to all of you and what you're able to do as a family since you don't have to scrimp to pay for college. Make it more tangible.[/quote]

I think the important factor is that the Grandfather sees the 529 contribution as a gift to the Grandson - hence the empty card at Christmas.

Grandson doesn't get to say "that's not the gift I want" - he needs to say thank you and move on.  Grandson needs to write an apology letter to Grandpa and acknowledge the gift he receives every year from Grandpa - the card and the 529 contribution.[/quote]

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