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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Was this out of line?

SIL told my mother this is the last Christmas or Christmas Eve (or even Christmas Eve Eve) she’ll see them and their two kids as they’re planning family vacations next year and moving forward.

This is a thing at the private school their kids go to, so they are dropping out of participating in Christmas with our family; a tradition going back 20 plus years of all of us getting together for Christmas Eve or Christmas Eve Eve. Brother and SIL live near my mother, so no travel involved.

My mom was so sad. Can’t help but think how many more Christmases does she have left. They can’t go on their vacation a day or two later?[/quote]

Public or private school is not relevant.  The fact is when kids are off and when the parents do not have to use lots of personal time off to travel.  Brother/SIL live near the mother. Where does OP live?  Travel to mom for Xmas Eve and day?  Flight, long drive, local or semi local?  SIL had no relatives/parents/friends or did she have to placate OP family for over 20 years of Christmas?

Brother and SIL kids are in K-12.  Guess what might happen when they are in college and are young adults for Thanksgiving and Christmas?    We and other parents got the come home and have stuff locally to see their friends especially at Thanksgiving.  [/quote]

My kids go to private and it’s certainly a “thing” for the “cool” Catholic private school cliques  to travel together and booze and spam all the photos on social media every school break. [/quote]

NP. Don’t want to see “spam”? Stay off social media, or unfollow the people you clearly dislike.

Going on a vacation is not something other people do to make you feel jealous. They don’t think of you, actually. People who are friends aren’t “cliques.” Really do get over yourself. My family stays home for the holidays and always has parents or ILs, but great for people who travel. I know that my neighbors’ vacation is not, actually, about me. [/quote]

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