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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When you’re in the middle of something it’s easy to over analyze and pick apart the behavior and what to do.

I’m an overly logical person. I struggle with some parts of parenting or listening to other parenting struggles because the solution is often very simple to me.

You need to ignore your child. She’s having a tantrum. When she starts crying, leave the room. Or tell her she has to stay in her room while she’s upset. Put her in there (assuming it’s a safe place) and leave the room.

You also need to go away for the weekend. You need a parenting reset as the current dynamic is unhealthy. Let her scream and cry for a day or two. Have DH offer unlimited TV, McDonald’s DoorDash and whatever else. She will likely get over the fact you aren’t there.

There isn’t any sort of medical condition where a child can only be with the mom and no one else. You’re not harming your child by leaving her with her dad.

The only reason this is going on is because you can afford for it to happen. If you were a single mom and forced to work, your daughter would be in daycare and likely flipped out the first few days and now be perfectly fine. If this were the 1950s, you would have more chores to do and wouldn’t have the time to tend to a child acting like this. 
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Kids get kicked out of daycare all the time. If this was the 50s and OP had 6 more kids, [b]sure this one would go to the playpen for hours and eventually stop crying. [/b]That doesn’t mean that’s any better for the child. (and when the child couldn’t tolerate school back in the 50s they just … kicked them out of school.)[/quote]

Exactly. The child is acting like this because she can. It’s getting her what she wants.

Fwiw in school she’ll likely act somewhat normal because she’s around peers. If other kids aren’t crying she probably won’t cry and have a tantrum. Even 2 year olds don’t want to embarrass themselves in front of their peers.  [/quote]

Must be nice to see the world through the lens of NT parenting only … you do realize that many challenging kids don’t behave the way you expect. Because that’s the whole thing - they are not typical kids. And no, getting a baby to stop crying through outright neglect is not a good thing. [/quote]

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