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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Frankly just cut ties with the whole lot and try to find others to hang out with. The fact that they worship someone who treats you like that in front of them says a lot.  [/quote]

OP pick and choose carefully.  They are telling you who they are, believe them. [/quote]

Focus on individual friendships with people who treat you well.  Most of these “friend” groups are overrated.[/quote]

I really think people need to talk back to these nasty people.  [/quote]

I feel this way about the "bystanders." Whenever you run into a woman like this who puts people down, excludes intentionally, gossips, etc., there are ALWAYS a number of women in her orbit who will, at best, ignore this behavior. At worst the emulate it and encourage it, or defend it.

Those are the people who could do the most good by calling out these behaviors, saying stuff like "Hey Becky, why do you always ask Miranda what grade her kid is in? You've met her like 12 times and your kids are in the same grade." Or "no, I don't feel comfortable talking about the Thompsons like this -- their marriage is none of my business and I would hate it if people talked about Pete and I this way."

But sadly, if you are the one being targeted, there is little use in trying to "talk back." It just feeds the machine. Your response to their nastiness will be used as justification for continued nastiness. You'll get accused of "starting drama" even if all you were doing was responding to unkindness. You just are not in a power position.

Look at OP -- this woman who is rude to her is considered part of the "best family" by others in this group. Speaking out agains the "best family" is not going to help you win friends. And if the other women in this group won't call out the woman's rudeness to OP, it's just going to continue. Which is why she needs to [b]cut and run[/b]. [/quote]

+1. This.  Far away.[/quote]

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