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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a European fit woman I don’t see how it would devastate me if my partner told he wanted me to become my former self. American women are full of s..t and self-justifying their poor eating habits.  [/quote]

Cut the racist bullshite[/quote]

I have an Italian gf and she straight up tells me if I’m getting a bit puffy in my midsection

She’ll poke / pinch and say:

“La Pancia” and shake her head

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I’m foreign born and always tell my American BF that he’s got lazy when I see his belly getting pregnant. I’m thin with 27 inches mid section in my 40s. No tolerance to extra fat there. It made him work out and eat less. He knows I won’t stay with him if he gets fat 
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Hate to break it to you, but you obviously aren’t going to stay with him whatever he does.  I mean, you’re in your 40’s, not married, and you have moved thousands of miles from your family of origin.  There are probably reasons for this.  
I don’t think you have any idea what long term healthy relationships look like or what it means to be in a loving, stable nuclear family where people don’t constantly pick on each other or threaten to leave.

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I moved my family of origin to join me in the US 2 years after I got citizenship. Wrong guess. But you are right in a sense that people who move to a new country are rarely from generations of fatties. Nobody in my family was ever overweight. Everyone was high achieving - men and  women.  My exH had weight gain  issues. He  was from a family  overweight mother who was cheated on and abused by his father. I divorced him after 20 years of marriage and never looked back. Overweight people are often depressed and  toxic . He also had low L. [/quote]

I’m sorry that you haven’t had the chance to be in a loving long term relationship with anyone in your life, pp.  It sounds like your parents only value you for what you can achieve, and not for just being yourself.  Your 20 year marriage sounds like it was full of animosity, and you weren’t loved or valued there either.  And now you are with a boyfriend who will leave or knows you will leave him.

I hope that you figure something out and things get better for you.  It sounds like you have a lot going for you.  [/quote]

You know zero about me my parents and yet jump into conclusions. Yea, of course all overweight people remain such as their partners love them as is. They don’t argue, take antidepressants or stay in marriages just for kids.

You know it’s all untrue. Being overweight reduces libido for you and your partner desire to have sex with you. It’s proven long time ago. These marriages are full of resentment. You can tell yourself otherwise but it’s just the way it is. In American couples I know where wives are fat, husbands cheat, everyone screams at each other etc. Nobody gets happier when partner lets themselves go. [/quote]

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