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[quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry if you’ve already tried these things or if they’ve already been suggested, but - 
- Can you hire a maid service? Having someone scheduled to come in on a regular basis might prod him into clearing obvious garbage or getting dirty laundry off the floor and into the hamper.
- Sounds like he commutes, so he picks up dinner on the way home. Maybe even just once a week to start, but same day every week.
- Try making one chore habitual for him. For example, ask him every single morning for two weeks to unload the dishwasher. (Note that habits might take him WAY longer than 14, or even the cliche 28 days to form though, so keep at it as long as necessary. I’m saying 2 weeks so you feel it’s manageable.)
- Shared phone calendars, to facilitate the above!!! iCal or Google, set them up and make sure he has the reminders turned on.
- Can he have one single category of “house stuff” that he can take on, and be proud of? It could be cooking. Or yardwork. But like only pick one to start. Something that he could frame as Fun, changeable, challenging, as opposed to a “chore”. Framing household tasks as care tasks as opposed to admin, can make all the difference.

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