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[quote=Anonymous]I have posted before about my issues alone these lines with my husband, who after our child was diagnosed with ADHD agreed he probably also has it but “is doing fine”. No amount of me saying well actually you are fine because you only work and I do 99 percent of everything else gets through and just makes him mad. It’s the unwillingness to get help or acknowledge my perspective that makes me crazy. He does do some of the take a kid here at x time stuff but everything that requires energy is on me. My biggest pet peeve lately is that I will ask him him or one of the kids to do something and he will be like “right now? This is not the time!” and them my suggestion that he can do it or get the kids to do it any time *as long as I don’t have to remind them again* is rude. I am sure it feels rude. But I’m tired of both being in charge of the entire to do list and finding the perfect time for every discussion or task. We have a very busy life and there are very few perfect times. And the vast majority of things I don’t just handle myself are things he wants to be involved in (if only for perception sake - like he wants to be the one to sign certain forms so he look involved). I hate it and what I hate even more is the message it sends to our kids. I’m not ready to divorce over it but I’m try hard to calmly push back against the idea that I have to manage everything including his preferences for how/when something needs to happen. I worry a lot about what my daughter is taking away from these interactions. Like everyone is nice and pleasant to mommy outside the house and mom has a lot of responsibilities at work but when she asks dad to do *anything* it goes badly. What kind of message is that? [/quote]

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