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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm in my mid 50s. Boy, that went fast. By "that", I mean my 20s, 30s, 40s. In the blink of an eye they were over, gone. You get into your 50s and start looking back on where you could have squeezed more enjoyment out of life. How you were so afraid to change, because of how it would look to other people instead of how it would make you feel. How you were afraid to take that chance that one time (such as relocating) that would have been a fork in the road that took you to something better. You can't see it now, but you will.

I would move and try something new.[/quote]

Alternatively, OP will hit her mid-50s stuck in a low-paying rural job she dislikes, without enough savings for looming retirement and college tuition, and facing aging in a rural locality her children will not want to visit. [/quote]

Did the OP say that she looked at jobs and could only find low paying unlike-able jobs?  I mean, there are good jobs in small towns.  Has she even looked?  
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Highly unlikely the job is anything like what OP has now. There’s a reason people leave rural areas to move to cities like DC for work. [/quote]

Sure.  When you are just out of school, you need a mentor to teach you how to do your job, and you want to be part of an entire infrastructure.  
But once you are in your forties, you can kind of do what you want (unless you are in a field that needs a big infrastructure no matter what (ie. Transplant surgeon)). [/quote]

I’m not sure what planet you are living on. Sure I have enough experience in my 40s to find another job, but you can’t just snap your fingers and get an equivalent job anywhere that replaces my very DC job. [/quote]

But you can start a business, right? If your spouse agrees to be the sole wage earner for a while and is willing to live anywhere in the country that you want to live as long as it’s not a huge city?  
There is really no way that you could possibly find any meaningful work in that situation?  I mean, I get it if you are highly trained to do something specific that requires a big infrastructure, but I don’t think that’s what’s going on with OP.  I think she is mostly very anxious.    [/quote]
Let’s all just snap our fingers and start a business that will make $230,000 right off the bat. I wonder why no one thought of this before![/quote]

Too right! LOL  :lol: [/quote]

Pp here.  It’s not really that crazy.  I’ve done it.  Both my parents did it.  My brother did it.  People with professional degrees start small businesses making $200k/ yr all of the time. [/quote]

No, they don’t. And maybe OP doesn’t want to? Why would I want to give up my colleagues and pension to start a business? [/quote]

Also you don't just "start a business" - are you thinking, like, a retail business? Selling... hot sauce? A cleaning company? A digital marketing firm? A small law practice? Any kind of business = success and happiness? This sounds like a Lifetime movie, not an actual plan.[/quote]

Almost anyone making $260k in a professional capacity should be able to come up with a job in their 40s making $150k.  Not the same money as before, but they don't need the same money - they're moving to a LCOL area.  Consulting is an easy one for most DC type jobs.  The interesting thing about DC is every has "a job" where they work for someone else.  When you leave DC for smaller towns, you find that most people work for themselves. And lots of those people are well educated - they just are more entrepreneurial than DC.

When I left DC, DH and I figured I had 2-5 years at my job in a remote capacity before I would get pushed out, and to this day I have a bunch of back up plans where I know I can make $200k if I got fired. Lucky for me, it's been 10 years and covid happened and normalized my remote situation.

If OP can't think of a single thing to do where she could make $150k in the new place, she's probably vastly overstating the "big job" she has in DC. [/quote]

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