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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The “only missed dinner once in six months”
poster is so full of shit I can smell it from here.  I can’t think of any parent in any job, whether a big law partner or a garbage collector, who never, ever, ever, EVER has to miss dinner with the kids.   [/quote]

Wow, well, I'm that poster.  And what I said was he missed dinner once in the last six months, not that he never ever misses dinner.  I actually hadn't even realized he'd gone so long without missing dinner except that the night he was gone (recently, due to a work event), the kids acted like it was such a big deal, and that made me go back and look and realize that it had been at least six months since he'd missed dinner.  He DID miss dinner and bedtime much more frequently as an associate.  He also used to travel much more before covid.  But we both agreed that he wouldn't continue in private practice if it was as crazy as some people claim (and again - I know it is crazy for some lawyers in some firms), and so far, for him, it hasn't been.

He IS a partner in one of the very DC-focused practice areas mentioned earlier, at a firm known for being family friendly.  Perhaps in the NY market he would work longer hours (and make 8M instead of 2M) but in DC life is pretty good.  Partners in his firm, at least that he works with, often have evening time blocked off (slightly different times, depending on the age of the kids!) in which they won't schedule calls.  And with rare exceptions those blocked off hours are respected.

You can claim I'm full of shit all you want, it doesn't change what's true about my life and family.
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It isn’t true.  It just isn’t.  [/quote]

I think what I wonder is, what do you have to gain by insisting this stupid random detail of my life is not true?  Seriously, what?  Is it so important to you that every family with a high HHI is miserable?  Or just every attorney?  I used it as an EXAMPLE of how some families have achieved balance with one parent working as a biglaw partner, and you (or multiple people?) feel so confident I'm lying - and for what?[/quote]

See, it doesn’t ring true to me because I WAS a Biglaw partner in DC, I DID work surprisingly reasonable hours, and I never knew a single lawyer of any age, title, gender, position, or practice group who never, ever, ever missed dinner with the family.   I’ve never met a single human being who hasn’t, in fact.  You may not be lying, but you sure as hell are mistaken.  [/quote]

Weird.  Either you are super old, and times have changed (and shouldn't we all be grateful for that?), or you have an extremely limited ability to imagine that anyone could possibly be living a life different than yours. [/quote]

I’m not the only one who doesn’t believe you.  Plus I think it’s funny that you’ve already qualified it with “well, not counting date nights and not counting social obligations . . .”  What else doesn’t count?[/quote]

NP here and you and the other naysayers are just getting boring. Oh well her husband does something you don’t believe possible, why are you digging in this hard? [/quote]

Because we were right, as her backtracking into “except dates and social obligations” confirmed. [/quote]

Lol that’s not backtracking.  The biglaw partner is still spending family time, just without the kids.  Be less miserable.[/quote]

“Social obligations” are not “family time.”[/quote]

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