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The "random" and "dive" parts are what puzzle me. I can see having a favorite "third place" spot he finds relaxing and a good bridge from work to home, and having a beer there occasionally. (If it's every workday? Yeah, that could be a bigger problem of needing a drink rather than needing a break.) But going to different, random places all the time--unless he's maybe a beer lover who wants to check out different places' microbrews or whatever? -- seems a bit off. And I'm not sure how OP defines a "dive bar" here. Sometimes that really just means cool and funky and not pretentious, but for me it can also mean in a sketchy area that's maybe not a good idea. I'd talk to him about it, not about the need for the break per se, but more about why it seems like such a restless, unfocused choice of places to stop. [/quote]

God forbid an adult male who works at various hospitals should have even a single moment in which he is allowed to be restless and unfocused. His entire life has to be prescribed and rigidly controlled by someone else, I suppose.[/quote]

JFC, if your spouse controls you that's too bad but you're projecting that here. Of course he can be unfocused. OP is not trying to "rigidly control" him, she just doesn't get the randomness of this, as opposed to having some regular watering hole or favorite decompression spot like many people would. She's not trying to tell him he only must drink at one particular place, FFS. I'd just wonder if he was under some kind of terrible stress at work that needed more than a 15-minute stop in a bar to deal with it. [/quote]

Hmm… my spouse doesn’t control me, nor do I control him, and I’d have no problem with him doing this. Your reaction to my admittedly post seems kind of over the top. [/quote]

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