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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My open relationship is a lot different than some of these PPs are describing.

My DH and I generally have a blast together, we have a similar sense.of humor and we spend a lot of quality time as a family and the occasional  date night involving dinner and a movie or similar.   We also more or less share long-term goals and values. We rarely argue. He is a great parent and a good partner.

The relationship is open for both of us but I have zero drive and honestly I just have minimal prioritization for "fixing" that.  There aren't any men or women who I wish to pursue. We didn't open our relationship to "fix" the problem of my low drive.  We actually opened the relationship 20+ years ago because my drive was higher and I wanted to try different things with different partners.

My DH is also a good partner to his GF, who is a good person whose occasional company I enjoy.  She and I went to brunch recently just the two of us.  We occasionally get both her family and my family together since the kids are similar ages and get along.

It's definitely not all roses.  I occasionally get jealous, resentful, annoyed, and anxious about what the future holds and stressed that there is no culturally accepted model for my longterm relationship situation,  but overall it's pretty happy and pretty stable.[/quote]

I am one of the open married women and I sometimes feel this is the situation of the majority of the married ENM or Poly men I meet.   Love my wife and family life but wife is low sex drive so either he gets a pass and she looks the other way and she is mainly monogamous or they both see other people but the wife's interactions with men are more for other non-sexual needs as she is more asexual.  I usually decline these scenarios because I have felt them men are primarily seeking a sexual surrogate to take up the wife's slack.  Yeh no thanks.  You describe him being a great boyfriend to his girlfriend so if he is one of the rare ones actually fulfilling the range of relationship needs and treating her like a whole interesting human then that is an exception.  Too many are clear that my wife gets all my emotional and non-sexual relationship effort and energy and I am just gonna give you minimal effort and call when I want some booty because she is too tired.  Nah, hard pass on just being a supplemental office.[/quote]

Yep, I completely understand what you are saying and I agree that is unfair for the non-marital partner if he/she is not treated with care and respect.  I wouldn’t be married to someone who treated a romantic partner that way.

-PP[/quote]

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