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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

Listen, my husband isn't a saint. He's an alcoholic ([b]yes, he's been "sober" for a few years, but he goes to meetings (it's yet another thing we are juggling every damn week) and his own struggles have made my own life hell[/b]. I was raised by a drunk dad and know how terrible it is). I forgave him when he admitted he had a drinking problem during the pandemic and got evening out patient treatment but it's unfair to be like he's a saint! No one is a saint. He's a good parent (oddly even when he was drinking he was an attentive, involved parent, he was just angry all the time. Now, he's all "I feel this" or "I hear that" or "let's keep our streets clean and be transparent" -- tons of AA speak.

So, all of you who think I'm just terrible, just be clear, I'm not. I am human. But I still deserve to be viewed as an adult with a say. [/quote]
This is quite the non sequitor. But I’ll bite. How have his struggles and sobriety journey made your life hell, exactly? [/quote]

OP here. I swore I would never marry an addict and have been very clear that an addiction is something I won’t accept. He didn’t drink seriously for over 15 years and then blames his prior job (which he quit and left) and COVID anxiety for his descent into secret day drinking. I was so pissed when he came clean I threatened to leave him and remind him all the time that no one will question my decision to kick a drunk to the curb. And he could forget the kids and drink away or do whatever he wants as long as he pays child support. That shut down every argument he’s had so he doesn’t complain anymore. But he gets passive aggressive and talks in the whole “I feel” mode to make me feel bad instead of just calling me an ahole like he used to.

So, that’s the hell, PP. see, he’s no perfect prince. [/quote]

Every time you post you sound worse and worse.

No one wants to marry an addict. But some of us married people and will stick with them through thick and thin, rather than being pissed when they come clean to us with a problem. And yes, I've dealt with addict in my life, so I don't take that lightly. But I cannot fathom having the reaction you had. I honestly have no idea why your husband is still with you. [/quote]

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