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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would love for some insight into this issue.  I have an only child (age 7) who has been invited to very few (like 2) playdates over the last three years of school.  We have invited her friends many times to our house or to meet up at parks, etc.  We never meet up with any of her friends unless I initiate and plan the playdate, their moms never reach out to us or invite us.  I believe this is because all her friends have either younger or older siblings.

When we meet up with her friends who have siblings, the mom always brings the sibling to the playdate, even if they're different gender and much older.  So for instance, last month we went to the zoo with her same aged friend and the friend's older brother, who was 12 and very bored and complaining the whole time. The mom even mentioned that Dad was home at that time, so I'm thinking why didn't she just leave him with Dad instead of bringing him to this outing when of course he would be bored?

The friends who have younger siblings always come to the playdates, even though the moms don't even ask if that's okay and it annoys my child to have younger siblings trying to play with her and her friend when they want time together.

Interestingly, in the last few weeks my child has been invited to multiple playdates by her friends who have older siblings.  I then realized that the reason for this sudden change is because their older siblings are at sleepaway camp.  Suddenly her friends' moms are very interested in getting the kids together for playdates, when we were ignored completely during the school year.  This makes me kind of ornery and I don't understand why the siblings always have to come along for the playdate.  [b]Can't mom leave the sibling at home with Dad or arrange a playdate for the other sibling?  Or just invite my kid over to the house even though the other sibling won't have a friend?[/b]

I had a sister who was one year older and this issue never came up with us.  If I had my own friend over, she would just play alone in her room or my mother would find a playdate for her.  There was no expectation that she would hang out with me and my friend.  I often had a sleepover with just my friend, and she would just deal with it and do her own thing, and same with her, if she had a sleepover, I would just deal with it.  There was never any sense of one sibling couldn't play with a friend on their own because the other sibling wouldn't have a friend and would feel left out, so I just don't really understand these parents' perspectives on this.[/quote]

Can't you chill out and stop trying to micromanage other people's families in order to make everything more convenient for you?  [/quote]

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