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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, no matter how healthy she appears, at 90, every day is a gift. In your shoes, I'd stuff the house cleaning and join my husband and child and go visit grandma.

Find another way to get what you want. Ask your husband to give you what you want (clean house, no cooking, etc.) next weekend. Nothing magical about Mother's Day, per se. [/quote]
Seriously! Wtf does no one notice the glaring point that DH’s grandmother will be visiting AND DH is giving her a day to herself AND OP still managed to managed to make it about her? This is really self-focused.[/quote]
Because she asked for him to do all of the cleaning on Saturday so they could have family time on Sunday, but now he’s likely not going to do the cleaning on Saturday because of the visit, so it either won’t get done or dh will be doing it on Sunday instead of enjoying family time or OP has to do it. [b]FIL couldn’t get dh to do his bidding until he used 90+ granny as a pawn because every holiday, no matter how minor, could be her last one.[/b][/quote]

It’s a valid reason for OP’s husband to visit.  [/quote]
That’s why FIL set it up yesterday. Nothing else was working so he needed more leverage.[/quote]

I bet Grandma doesn't even show up! J/K dh is wrong but it's doubtful fil is that manipulative.[/quote]

[b]No evidence FIL set it up[/b] and there is nothing wrong with DH spending the Saturday of Mother’s Day weekend with his mom and grandma.  It doesn’t interfere with OP’s holiday on SUNDAY.  [/quote]
How did you conclude that? FIL’s first 3 invitations were declined. Then, suddenly, [b]he sweetens the pot[/b] by saying that grandma is traveling a couple hours to be part of celebration — potentially her last. Do you think a nonagenarian made last minute plans to travel several hours? What are the odds she’s driving herself? [/quote]

You made this up.  The visit could easily have been initiated by grandma.  Either way, it’s a valid reason for her husband to want to be there.[/quote]
No I didn’t. “My FIL called my husband again TODAY and said that now my husbands grandmother will be travelling 2+ hours on Mothers Day and that it ‘might be her last mothers day’ and asked my husband again, to go.” Turns out, grandma only lives 20 minutes away from OP and DH and there’s no reason why he can’t see her whenever he wants.[/quote]

That doesn’t mean it wasn’t grandma herself who wanted to spend the day at her daughter’s house.[/quote]
What does that have to do with any of this? OP’s dh wasn’t going to go until FIL told him that grandma was making the trip and it could be her last. Grandma didn’t summon OP’s dh. FIL wanted to show off his garage, so he just kept working on his son until son caved.[/quote]

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