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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think you are bothered by this because it triggered something in you: are you unhappy with how you look/present? Do you wish you could change that? I get being annoyed but you seem to imply this happens more than once.[/quote]

No one wants to be called grandma…unless they are a great grandma. Get real.

The psycholodrama folks are trying to make this into us comical. [/quote]

Np. Fact is op could be a grandma.  Since hen is it an insult?  Just laugh and say nope he is my son?[/quote]

40 year olds are not commonly grandparents. [/quote]

In much of America you rarely see 40 year old parents but 40 something grandparents are common.[/quote]

Maybe later 40s. 43 would be pushing it. Regardless, if you look at the original post the man was not super dialed in socially to begin with. [/quote]

You're wrong.  There are many, many parts of the country where the average age for women having their first child is 22:  https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/08/04/upshot/up-birth-age-gap.html  And if you know anything about averages, there will be a lot of families where the mom is younger than 22.  A 43yo grandma may be uncommon in the DC area but it's not at all atypical in some areas.[/quote]

I get that you’re really fixated on this. But read the original post I think that’s more of what this is about. Everyone’s going on this woman’s appearance or age, but really, this dude was just not paying attention.

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PP who pasted the link and I'm a NP to this thread so I'm not fixated, but I do think it's fascinating how isolated I am, and perhaps you too, when it comes to the reality of first time motherhood for most American women.  Among the top 10 counties for oldest first time moms are three DC-area counties -- Falls Church, Arlington and Alexandria.  All with averages of 30 or 31yo!  I get that the OP's situation is more likely just a guy who was making small talk and wasn't really paying attention, but he wasn't way off base.[/quote]

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