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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Posts like OP’s always stir up such venom and sanctimony.  The suggestion that a cheating spouse can’t love their kids or be a good parent is ridiculous.  Another poster hit it right on the head: most cheaters don’t ever think they will get caught, are compartmentalizing and the parenting part of them is often doing just fine.  It’s only when they get caught that there’s a problem.

No one knows what’s going on in anyone else’s head, and no one is in any position to judge anyone else’s parenting simply because there’s infidelity in the marriage.

It’s interesting.  I follow the college admissions forum and I see a lot more damage being done to children there than the theoretical damage that can be done by a cheating spouse.  [/quote]

A cheating parent can not be a good parent.
How can they be? They are liars, and cheaters, and lack respect for their partners. Etc... hiding things

Amazing role model you are an idiot.

OP you want to stay fine that is on you. Your kids will think you are a wimp and will blame you later for their messed up relationships. I know women who stayed for the money some are happy their grown up kids nope good luck with that crap because that is what it is crap. [/quote]

I strongly disagree. I found out as an adult (when I was in my 40s) that my dad cheated on my mom, and my mom turned around and had some revenge cheating. 1) I never knew growing up. 2) both parents were attentive, loving, and good parents, and 3) I did not suspect.

They are still married today (I think 55 years?) and their marriage is strong. Being tested by a little bit of health & aging concerns, but they've been married 55 years. They worked at it. I can see that they still work at it. But they decided being married to each other was better than the alternative.[/quote]

You don’t know what you missed out on. A lot of people think their childhoods were hunky dory but then they do some soul searching and realize they weren’t. I’m glad you feel like you has a good childhood and you probably did but your parents were going through a lot and when people go through a lot they are less engaged with others than they otherwise would be.

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This response makes me want to wretch.  How many posters on this board have two parents working their a$$es off because their careers are so damned important to them, how “engaged” can they possibly be with their kids as a result, yet how many will nonetheless insist that their kids are having great childhoods?  I have a hunch the poster whose parents have been married for 55 years but during the course of such a long marriage had some infidelities were at least as “engaged” with their kids as many of the posters on here where there was no cheating. [/quote]

Of course it does because you want to believe your selfishness has zero effect on anything else in your family/life.  Of course you think you are a perfect wife and mother and your cheating makes you even better at it :roll: .  The lies we tell ourselves...[/quote]

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