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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All these dudes who say ‘not fat’ havevsex packs and are over 6’1”, right?[/quote]

Women: What do men want?

Men: We want these things.

Women: F-you!! And you're fat! [/quote]

Yep, every time.  The women of DCUM love to tell us what we should want, and correct us when we answer the question of what we do want.  Really, why ask?[/quote]

You have an issue with people who age at the same rate as you. Have some introspection as to why this is an issue for you.[/quote]

Exactly - why don’t all these 60+ men date 60+ women who would be on same page with retirement, kids, time availability etc? Nope, they all try to find a good looking, financially secure 40 yo. Believe me - 40 yo women that you want have no problem finding men their age or slightly younger to date. All my girlfriends remarried to men who are within 5 years of their own age. Younger second husbands outweigh older ones in my circle (more couples when she’s 48 he’s 43 etc at the time of making  the second marriage official). [/quote]

The men are too nusy paying off their first and second wives - women don't think this through, just want a man with a house. Sad, but true. [/quote]

It’s not financially wise: a man with good salary (200+) and no first house  in his 40s is > than 60+ man with a house. You can build a life with option 1, and will have leftovers from prior marriages with option 2.  I have a fully paid off house from my own generous divorce settlement. Of course all option 2 men look for well-off much younger divorcees.  But income and future earning capacity is worth way more than a house. I can build multiple properties with someone my age and income level instead of retiring with 60+ husband, devoting all my time to his interests of a retiree, and who would leave everything to his kids regardless. WTF! [/quote]

There is too much bad information in your post to unpack it all. Anyone who thinks a man can "leave it all to his kids" doesn't understand the financial or legal system of the US. Anyone who thinks either future earning or future property equity are guaranteed is a fool. The reason women want a man with a house is because housing costs are typically the largest share of an adult's living costs. Women want the house so they can live rent-free and spend more on themselves (or their children). 
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Well, I am not that woman who looks for free housing for myself or my children. My only child enters college and is well taken care of by exH. Being a female real estate developer, I can assure you that for anyone with significant experience in RE money and equity creation is as easy as kicking dirt under your feet. Earning, borrowing capacity and age is what determines your future NW, not a house you live in.  [/quote]

Yes, the real estate boom is one which can never end. Not even God Himself can sink that market or bankrupt those RE agents and developers. [/quote]

I’ve lived through several downturns beginning 2008 and ending covid. If you approach RE just like any other investment you should base your investment decisions on the minimum possible return (eg 2008 or covid years ), lowest market prices, lowest occupancy rate. Always make sure it’s easy to stabilize if not sold and have cash available to jump on such opportunities. Few developers act this way thus many went bankrupt in 2009. But that’s a side conversation not for this thread.

Anyway, to me a single house has no dating value whatsoever. Brains, family oriented, age young enough, sexy,  and minimum earning capacity of 200k+ in his 40s is what I would my money and knowledge on. [/quote]

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