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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe OP is concerned about her DH being around these cousins because of the chance they make more “unfounded” accusations. For all we know, the penpal letters might truly have been fine, but maybe the cousin didn’t like the situation because of the DH’s upskirt history. And the cousin reported DH’s criminal history to the school where he was he was employed and got him fired (which is odd—how did the school not run a background check? Why did the parol officer not find him in violation of his parol terms if it was a problem?). The DH clearly did something wrong with the photos but it’s hard to know if that intent extended to the girl cousin. OP can’t seem to be objective about what her DH did and how others in the family may view it—rightly or wrongly. Because she can’t be objective, she views the accusations as unfounded which might lead to concerns about more accusations if they see the cousins or maybe there’s some lingering anger toward the cousin and OP doesn’t want to be around them. Regardless, this is DH’s call to make and OP shouldn’t have gone to the in-laws asking for a heads up in the future. [/quote]

The cousin in question was a tween at the time this happened, per the original post.  You are acting like the cousin was an adult who read inappropriate intent where there was none and then went to the school with them to get OP’s husband fired.  More likely the tween found letters to his younger sister (who was at most a tween herself) that were very clearly inappropriate if a tween felt the need to show them to an adult.  Moreover, if those letters were what lead to the investigation that turned up the upskirting photos on his computer, it is very likely that the letters were sufficiently concerning to law enforcement that they were investigating him for preying on minors.  We don’t know what he was convicted of, or if he might have plead guilty to a lesser charge of voyeurism in order to avoid trial on more serious charges. A year in prison is a pretty harsh sentence for someone who did nothing more than take a few upskirt photos, even if one of them was a 17 year old.

Side note, if the 17 yo [b]was some random person that the husband had no way of knowing was 17, how did law enforcement figure it out[/b]?  There are a lot of these details in OP’s story that don’t make sense, which suggests she is burying the severity of what he actually did. [/quote]

Your questioning whether it is possible for law enforcement to determine the identity of a victim?[/quote]

Yes, unless 17 to caught him in the act and filed a complaint, I am questioning how law enforcement was able to identify a random unknown woman from a photo up her skirt to determine she was 17.  If the 17 yo did not catch him in the act, I suspect the 17 yo was known to OP’s husband.[/quote]

Was the 17YO photo victim the cousin? I'm also assuming these photos were posted on line with his "club."[/quote]

No, OP said the penpal cousin was pre-pubescent at the time of the letters. [/quote]

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