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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My friend is on the other side of this. Her mom died when my friend was in college. Her dad ended up remarrying after my friend was married. Her new stepmother had one daughter. The dad died and the new wife got everything. When she passes, her assets will go to her daughter and not my friend or her siblings.

The dad had no will. He died suddenly. I think everyone is kind of like why did this 50 something year old just take the dad’s assets? My friend has kids. Her siblings have kids.

Aside from the OP’s intent on marrying OP or not, I think it is smart that he is not putting her on the house. They are not married and she does not contribute financially, why would she be put on the deed?[/quote]

She contributes financially!  She bore the child, cared for the child, cared for the house, for seven years.  Again, why do you think we have laws that protect spouses in marriages? It's because we are in a culture/economy where women often do the domestic labor that enables the man to do paid labor. That makes the woman vulnerable if the man dies/leaves her.  So the law says, you get 50% of the assets, you get an automatic distribution from the estate.

Your scenario of the stepmother inheriting is unfortunate, but totally different. Unless you're leaving something out, your friend was not financially dependent on her dad - she was married and had a family of her own.  But sure, it may have been fair for her dad to leave some assets to her; or maybe she did have special financial needs he should have seen to. But he did not. And that's the overarching point here - people who don't handle their financial lives in a fair and proactive way.  [/quote]

The overarching point here is that we are a culture that prioritizes written commitments over unwritten ones.  They are not married.  She is not entitled to the protections of a wife.

The poster you're responding too got shunted on account of no will.  Her father could have left her the money but he didn't.  It was his free choice.  Just like it is OP's boyfriend choice not to marry her. [/quote]

Well some free choices make you a scumbag, like this dude.  That's the entire point. So that OP realizes he is a scumbag and she needs to protect herself from him ASAP. [/quote]

And what does OP's free choice to have a child outside of marriage, to stay with a guy who doesn't marry her, and not to work make her?

A guy supporting another man's children is hardly a scumbag. [/quote]

Well we don’t know that he’s supporting those kids, do we?

OP bore the child and is providing chilcare & services to her “fiance” for free and getting little in return. And we don’t known what his representations have been about marrying her.  Abandoning the mother of your child financially is a loser move. [/quote]

She is not a surrogate.  That child is hers.  Half of childcare and "services" she provides are on her.  And it isn't for free - unless you count freedom from worry.  Someone's paying all these bills and it's not OP.

If the kids live with them and the mother doesn't make an income, someone else is paying their bills. [/quote]

who is paying the childcare bills?[/quote]

OP is paying one half. Her boyfriend the other half.[/quote]

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