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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, original "kid at 26" PP here and this really took off in a ... not great direction.

I was ready at 26 -- financially, mentally, education/career-wise, otherwise. Some may not be. That's fine. It's really strange to have to explicitly make an "Everyone is different" disclaimer. And yes, I was a married college grad, but more importantly I was stable overall and personally felt ready for the challenge. I did not do grad school/law school etc. so that is an important factor. Many people are not done with their higher ed by that age.

I'm glad I started young because conceiving a healthy pregnancy was actually not a smooth path for me.

My parents were in their 30s and most of my parent friends were 30-35+ when they started having kids, so I have nothing against that path, either. I just think it's good if people have the feasible *option* to have kids starting in their 20s if they wish. [/quote]
How does custody work with your kids and ex?[/quote]

?? Happily married here. Not even sure what this snark is aiming at.[/quote]

Another young married/young mom here. (Married 24, first house at 27, first baby at 28) They console themselves by thinking we are all somehow divorced because we married "young." I too have been happily married 18 years. Sorry to disappoint them. [/quote]

No one should be encouraging other to marry at age 24. I don’t care if you did, that is terrible advice to give out. [/quote]

Agree.  I was married at 22 and had my first at 26.  Happily married 15 yrs so far with three kids.  However, I would NOT advise my daughters to do the same.  I got lucky it hasn’t been a train wreck, but I think in general it is a bad idea and likely an impulsive vs cognitive decision [/quote]

I married at 24 someone I started dating and 20. Maybe I would agree to wait a little longer for marriage, I still think women who know they want a family life should be dating with an eye toward marriage in the second half of college or early 20’s. Not saying they will find someone, but the pickins do get slimmer very very quickly. Most of my good friends were at least dating their future DH by college graduation or soon thereafter. The ones I know who married “late” had a very hard time finding a good husband. They did eventually but it was nerve wracking and really stressful. [/quote]

Interesting, I know only a handful of folks who coupled up during undergrad / grad school. I started dating in earnest (ie looking for a husband) by like 23 or 24 and I didn’t find him until I was 29 and he was 34. I was VERY picky, as I think women should be. We are celebrating 12 years this month. I think my friends who were single after say 35 really felt the pickings had skimmed down. I felt there were still plenty of fish in the pond at 29![/quote]

If he's as wonderful as you say, you are incredibly incredibly lucky he was still single at 34. My DH (also a catch IMO) was married with 2 kids at 34. [/quote]

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