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[quote=Anonymous]I had my baby at 37 but I do think that in a perfect world I would have had a baby earlier, probably had more than one. Here's what it would take for a such a world to exist:

I'd need my own parents to have been more emotionally mature and ready for parenthood, so that they would not have resorted to abuse and neglect when they became parents in their late teens/early 20s. Which would also require my grandparents to have been mentally healthy, not alcoholics, and not suffering from PTSD from the war and the depressions. My great grandparents were also fleeing famine and poverty in Europe when the immigrated to the US, that probably did not make them the most amazing parents to my grandparents. And so on. If you could clean up my family tree to eliminate poverty, mental health issues, trauma, and abuse issues, then I might have had the kind of childhood that produces someone secure and mature enough to become a good parent at 22. Let me know what you come up with on this.

Also, I need a pool of men who are similarly mature enough and stable enough to become parents in their 20s so that I'd stand a chance of partnering with one. Most of the men I dated in my 20s were even more immature and messed up than I was, which is saying something. Please fix this, I'm sure lots of people would appreciate it, actually.

Oh, and colleges and grad schools and employers need to be more accommodating of pregnancy, childbirth, and early parenthood instead of just pretending these are imaginary things that can't possibly happen to any of their students or employees. Waiting until my late 30s to have a child meant I had the seniority to get the maternity leave and flexibility I needed, such options were not available to me in my 20s.

Kthxby![/quote]

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