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[quote=Anonymous]Sorry my post was inserted mid-quote. I'll try again.

I'm the poster above who stayed home for a number of years. I want to clarify that I would never expect alimony in this situation even though my earning potential took a big hit. I'm doing ok now. Had I not stopped working I'd probably be making at least 200K at least. I left the workforce in 2008 90K came back full-time in 2018 at the same number and am now at 130K. What I'm concerned about is the 401(k) situation. I was so far behind when I went back to work that I'll never make up the ground that I lost. I have 400K and he has 2m.

To the working spouses who were able to manage it all, kudos to you. I've had years to come to terms with the fact that I didn't choose my spouse very well. He would have never been mr. 50% and I couldn't see trying to hold it all together while working and having two small kids. He got to continue with his entitled behavior, advance in his career, make extremely limited contributions at home etc. etc. I'm back at work, doing all the cooking, 90% of driving kids, all household organization, and he is still sailing along. Covid has been a huge blessing to work-life balance for me at least![/quote]

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