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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I were a legacy or big donor kid, legacy/donor admissions would make me really question my worth. Every other admissions category comes with a personal challenge and merit. Athletes are exceptionally hard workers (I’m not one btw, but do not understand the unhinged DCUM haters). First-gen did not have the family assistance. URM have faced racism. But legacy and donor kids did literally nothing to merit their admissions. It had to mess with their heads. They must know they are only there because of pure luck. Idk. I can’t understand why people want that for their kids. [/quote]

My kid is a legacy who would not have gotten into the top 20 that he did without that status. It wasn't alone legacy that got him in, but also the multi-million dollar gifts from his family over the last 60 years. The thing is, he worked incredibly hard--as hard as any kid could--at a very intense independent school. He is incredibly bright but has ADHD and there was just no way, despite his 6-7 hours of homework a night, meeting with teachers, ECs, all of it--and probably more than 99% of his peers--that he could get straight As. He got into great schools, just not quite as high as the one that legacy got him. He chose it anyway, with some trepidation. He says that sometimes he feels "imposter" syndrome (I explained that's not exactly what that is), but he knows he worked every bit as hard as his classmates who didn't get in. So why does he deserve it less? He worked harder than most and is highly intelligent. If you think he didn't deserve it, then your argument must be that only those with a very certain kind of intelligence, regardless of work ethic, should get in. Is that what you think?[/quote]

For every multimillionaire, hard-working, kid with a learning disability, there are probably 5 first gen college kids who are poorer, smarter and just as hard working, without the private school priviliege and tutors and extracurricular support that your kid had that helped your kid get into his elite college.  And they will go to community college or JMU and all will be right in the world of the highly privileged.[/quote]

Clearing the path for their mediocre kids is the real point of all of this. The really smart hard working legacies will be fine somewhere else, it's kid's like OP's who need the boost into school and then the prestige that the degree carries[/quote]

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