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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here.

But I wonder if OP could share the language of the email from SIL.

"Here's Larla's address at camp this summer in case anyone is interested"

is way different than:

"Please send Larla mail once a week so she doesn't get homesick"[/quote]

OP here. It was:

“Lucy and Lilly will be at camp X date to Y date. Please be sure to make camp extra special for them by writing them at this ADDRESS.”

It was not phrased as a request or “if you want to.”

I can see I’m in the minority but I’m okay with that. My relationship with them is fine, I don’t need to be their BFF. We all live locally and see each other plenty. [/quote]

[b]That phrasing was not a command, and it’s somewhat petty of you not to mail a postcard. [/b] [/quote]

I completely agree.  If you're offended by that, OP, then you must be a very unhappy person.[/quote]

Never said I was offended. Just a busy tired mom like everyone else and was irritated that [b]I know SIL presumes[/b] I will do this for her brother. [b]She KNOWS [/b]he isn’t going to. Why do women create more work for other women? That’s all. On principle I’m not going to.[b] I think[/b] my nieces will be just fine with it.[/quote]

Projecting a lot.  Kids just want mail at camp.  It’s not rocket science.

No one can make you do anything you don’t want to do, but don’t tell yourself you are taking some sort of principled stand here.[/quote]

DP Why are you presuming the PP doesn't know her SIL?  I know how my SIL thinks because she's made it clear when something doesn't happen, she blames me rather than her brother for not making it happen.  I have no doubt the PP has experienced the same.

I agree with the PP that women should stop expecting other women to be responsible for things that are not their responsibility.  You may appreciate someone putting forth effort but when you start expecting it, you're part of the problem. [/quote]

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