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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In elementary school, I came in from work to see one of the performances that kids do for some holiday.  One of the SAHMs saw me and looked me up and down in my suit and asked if I had to go back to work after the show.  So I said that yes I have afternoon court appearances so I would be heading out after the post show "reception."  She responded, "Well, it's so nice that she got to see you for an hour today.  I am sure that really means a lot!"  It really hurt my feelings back then.  Now I would laugh and say oh she would tell you she sees far too much of me.

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Something similar happened to me.  I had been a SAHM for years.  I left an abusive marriage and had to start all over again with two young children.  I had been at my new job for about three months, and of course I was feeling the mom guilt.  My sister took my kids to a summer birthday party.  It was during my lunch hour so I was able to sneak out for a little while and come to the party.  There was a big circle of SAHMs in lawn chairs watching the kids play - basically, me in a former life.  One of them saw me and said, "AnnaBeth!  It's so good that you could spend a little time with your kids today".

It broke me.  She probably wasn't even trying to sound judgmental.  But it really hurt.  If it had happened a year later, I wouldn't have given it a thought.  But at the time, I was really struggling and that comment just put me over the edge.  I held it together for a little while, then got into my car and just cried.

My kids are all adults now, but I still think about that comment often.  We have the ability to hurt others deeply with our words.[/quote]

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