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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here we go with this same tired old topic again.

Look, the bottom line is simple:  it's better to have kids young.  Biology prefers it for a reason.

Of course older mothers are going to disagree, because they have to validate their choices or circumstances.  [b]All of this baloney about the benefits of having kids older -- being financially secure, having fun in your youth, etc. -- benefit the [i]parents[/i], not the kids.[/b]  If, for example, you're a struggling grad student, having a kid doesn't hurt the kid because your future earnings potential is presumably high.

That's what we did.  We got married in our early 20s, got our kids out of the way while going to grad school, and had all four before we were 30.  Now our kids are full grown, and the parents of their kids' friends are closer to our age than theirs.  And our kids didn't suffer economically, academically, or socially because we didn't wait until the timing was "perfect" by DCUM's definition.  To the contrary, they thrived.  [/quote]

That’s entirely untrue. I had young parents. They were perpetually stressed about money, and had mediocre emotional regulation at best. They mellowed out a lot when they got older and matured.  They should’ve waited 10 years and my sister and I might’ve had a better childhood. [/quote]

That's interesting.  So you would be OK with having your parents die ten years earlier for you if it meant a better childhood?[/quote]

Do you wish your parents had had you at age 16? No? Why are you trading that extra 10 years with them? You heartless beast. [/quote]

Well, I'm not the one wishing my parents had me ten years later.

But yes, as a matter of fact, I do wish my parents had me earlier so I'd have more time with them. [/quote]

Well, that’s pretty darn selfish of you. [/quote]

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