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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Then you should have given them their share in cash. This is your fault, not theirs. I assume you couldn’t afford to buy them out?[/quote]

We all have similar HHIs, so it would have been unfair to put the full burden on me and my husband. It was a very fair price but it wasn’t exactly a small sim; ot would have been a stretch for just us. Not to mention they likely would have tried to keep using it, right. I didn’t want that dynamic either. [/quote]

It is what it is. At the buyout, you would have had them sign a document on the terms of use, including fair market rent for comparable properties. Yes, it sucks, but if you are not going to buy out, then there is nothing you can do and need to let this go.[/quote]

I’m the OP. I think this and also the person above who wrote similar sounds great in theory. I’d love to read a copacetic real world example of this happening after a pair of siblings enjoyed free access and use of a property for 40 and 50 plus years. It gives me anxiety just thinking about it. Of course in retrospect it’s easy to say I wish my husband and I did just that. There’s just really no good reason we couldn’t have kept the same arrangement my dad and uncle had. They honestly never argued about anything. It was all very chill and there was always happy family members there. Big house, lots of beds, lots of laughs. Breaks my heart.[/quote]

[b]Do you know for sure they never disagreed?  You were a kid.  And you want a house that's always full of happy family members, [/b]but you only want it if your siblings paid -- if they didn't, you didn't want them to come.  So you wouldn't get those full houses full of loving people.  Your dad and uncle no doubt had guests who didn't pay for the house (including their own adult children) which is likely one reason that it felt so great.  [/quote]

Yes, OP if they had good boundaries then they kept you out of disagreements. Also, as PP mentioned, you want the house to be full of happy extended family. You do realize your siblings are separate people with their own thoughts and feelings right? You could not force them to spend their money and then force them to arrive happy each summer. You are really rigid in your thinking. My mom is like this. She has wasted so much time obsessing over how she thinks things should and must be that she has spoiled memories of her and repelled people. You don't want to be become this bitter. Be better OP. Get help.[/quote]

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