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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP back with updates.
Spoiler alert- no one is allowed, still, to hold the baby. 
I offered up a lovely mother's day celebration for my sister- since this is her first. She said she would come for an outdoor visit, only if everyone masked (yet she wears a crappy cloth mask), for 15 minutes.
Okie.
So we did that, to accomodate her, and then the rest of the family enjoyed a lovely lunch at our parents' house.
Baby is 6 months, healthy, robust, sleeping well, and has had no interaction longer than 15 min with anyone except for the new nanny and my sister and her husband.
New nanny asked about going for walks, taking baby to playground, music mommy and me type classes. My sister said no to all.
Baby spends every day inside the house. Outings and contact with the outside world is to the pediatrician.
We are honestly over it and have had so many lovely family dinners and celebrated birthdays together- making up for 2 years of lost time. My sister and unfortunately her baby are missing out. But that is her choice.
Oh well.
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OP it is incredibly likely your sister is having postpartum anxiety, it's a disorder and not her just trying to be a b. I completely understand your concern but all your posts come across like it's about you and your families enjoyment, rather than of deep concern for your sister. Which I do think you have, but it sounds like you're being like "well she's bringing this on herself so oh well!!!" and I do understand your frustration. She's not making rational reasonable decisiosn right now. But she needs your empathy not your condemnation. She needs her husband to get her help STAT. I know that's not easy but if I were him (and I've been in this position with a spouse who needed help) I would demand that she at least start seeing a therapist to support her with this transition. Preferably one skilled in CBT and postpartum depression/anxiety (I wonder if ther eis some depression there as well because it's not typical to not want to have some interaction within a six month period).

Anyway my point is this is most likely truly a mental health disorder. So you can be frustrated (and it is frustrating when a family member is having mental health issues, believe me I know, because they aren't rational!) but at the end of the day she needs help.[/quote]

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