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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have good times with friends all the time and (gasp!) don't even bother to take photos, much less post them to the internet. What's wrong with just keeping your private life private? Then no one's feelings are hurt and you still get to enjoy your life. It's not hard.

When I do occasionally post photos to social media, it's usually something like a sign that has been misspelled in an amusing way. Something that I think might amuse people and that does not require you to be in on something. And when I do have photos from a private event I want to share, I text them to the people who are in them. I can't think of a good reason why people in my extended social network would be interested in it, much less just gushing with happiness about the fact that we had a backyard BBQ or met for rooftop drinks somewhere. And I certainly don't require the external validation from people who weren't there -- I know my life is good already.

Y'all are weird.[/quote]

I don’t use social media much and don’t take pictures (well, rarely).  But I couldn’t care less if others do.  I’m not stuck in high school pining to be included in everything by everyone I may be friends or acquainted with.  This is really sad for you if you let things like this bother you [/quote]

Where did I say it bothered me? I don't even look at crap on social media. I truly don't understand what it is for other than as an online white pages to track down someone you lost touch with, or as a platform for private groups or raising money. But I don't think it's surprising that if you do post photos of private social events to social media, it winds up making people feel bad. This seems self evident. Imagine if before Facebook, you sometimes got emailed photos of your neighbor's birthday dinner or the girls night a bunch of moms from your kids school put together without you? I'd view that as hostile, borderline crazy behavior. Just because Facebook makes that easier to do doesn't change the fact that it's obnoxious. I just don't understand why anyone would do this?[/quote]

It's weird to me that you use a platform where you disagree with the main purpose of it. I can't believe you find looking at other people's photos "hostile behavior." That is unhinged. When a friend wants to show you photos of your vacation, what do you do? Close your eyes? Run away? Call them rude and unhinged?[/quote]

Please read for understanding.  That's not what I said.

Pre-Facebook, if someone had randomly emailed me photos of a private social event they'd held but not invited me to, my response would be "What the hell is this?" I would consider the act of sharing those photos with me hostile, because I honestly can't think of a single reason to share photos of an event with someone who didn't invite OTHER than to make them feel excluded. It would be extremely weird, which is why that is not something people ever did back then.

And that's why I don't post photos like that to social media now. It seems weirdly hostile. "Here's pictures from a girls night with all my best girl friends!" and then sharing it with, for instance, my work friends who I really like but don't mesh with that group, my old bestie from grad school who I still really love but have fallen out of contact with, my neighbor who I know would enjoy being invited to something like this but I honestly just forgot to think of when I made the plans. I don't have to think long or hard to recognize that this has the potential to be hurtful or cause some damage to my relationships, so I would never in a million years post a photo like that. I was THERE. I do not need all my acquaintances, and extended family on Facebook to know about it. I can't think about why I would.

I could care less if someone posts vacation photos (or shares them with me on their phone). I use social media but generally avoid the feed scroll because it's a time suck, so I'm unlikely to see them. Is this even about vacation photos? I thought the topic was feeling left out of gatherings?[/quote]

So like uh every time you have an acquaintence post a photo you are not in, do you get mad?[/quote]

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