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[quote=Anonymous]To the # 3 Dad:

Like the others, I disagree with how YOU (as a parent) handled the situation.  I am a dad also and, honestly, I lack the social graces to adequately advise my daughters as to the proper invite protocol.  Luckily, my DW is capable and willing to step in.  It has saved us from a lot of situations like yours.

Your DD and you think that it is inappropriate to talk about poops and farts.  Fine.  No problem with that.  Having “values” is fine, but allowing your kid to selectively enforce these values to her benefit and convenience is what I have the problem with.  I could see both my DW and me saying “Amanda, you cannot have it both ways.  If you are so put off by the poop and fart talk, it is probably not a good idea for you to go to her party either.  We will just go to the movies or something.”   And it is not about “invites” at that point.  If you have “values” and you feel strongly about it, then govern yourself accordingly.

But you know what?  The past is the past.  Nothing you can do about THAT situation now.  But let me speak to the future.  My kids are all teens now. 
If you continue to condone this sort of thing, please have plenty of Kleenex and hugs ready for when your daughter gets older.  Because in about 2-3 years, a couple of things will happen.  One, the “all-class” parties get fewer and fewer.  So, most of the kids will exercise this “right” that you daughter exercised at 7 YO. Two, the other kids and their parents will see right through these “values”, and she will likely be the one excluded.  Kids have a very good filter for BS.  
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