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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Assuming everyone on dcum is of the professional working class, the question should actually be flipped: what’s the cost of not working?

Not arguing that upper middle class educated women shouldn’t be SAH, but there is a huge financial loss when they do make that decision. There is also the risk they take in trusting that their spouse will always be there to support them financially. For example, you SAH for ten years and then Dh wants a divorce, no 401k of your own, no marketable skillset except for cleaning and wiping butts… Eeek [/quote]
.the cost is missing out on your kid's childhood, spending little time with them, having someone else instill their values into your kid. [/quote]

What?! Do you have kids? 2 year olds to play outside with a ball, play in the dirt, poop, eat and sleep. It's not like you teach Kant's value theory to a 2 year old. How can you miss on their childhood when they should be in preschool anyway starting at 3? Developmentally,  it makes no sense. [/quote]

You really have no clue about how influential early caregivers are! Literally the very foundation of a person is formed during those early years. Things like how you deal with adversity, temperament, language, comfortable being outdoors etc etc. You must have outsourced or else you wouldn’t have asked this.[/quote]

Are you serious? "Deal with adversity" as an infant? All children are comfortable being outdoors. I grew up with a nanny in a city like NYC, my H grew up in the suburbs at daycare and we all loved to play in the dirt. For language and temperament development, daycare is actually the best. Having a SAHM is a risk for language delays, both because of the mom's lower economic status and also because of reduced socialization. In addition, being in daycare sharply reduces the risk for some serious diseases, such as leukemia.

"The risk of being a late talker at 24 months was significantly associated with being a boy, lower socioeconomic status, being a nonsingleton, older maternal age at birth, moderately low birth weight, lower quality parenting, [b]receipt of day care for less than 10 hr/week[/b], and attention problems. "

"Toddlers are surprisingly good at processing the speech of other young children, according to a new study. And toddlers who have more exposure to other children, such as those in daycare, may be particularly good at certain word learning skills."

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"Children who go to daycare may benefit from a wider variety of social and communicative situations relative to children who do not go to daycare, a recent study suggests.  The former have a heightened ability to adjust their non-verbal communication to take into account the age of the person they are playing with."[/quote]

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