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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who have the luxury of this choice - staying home or working full time - should do what they want, OP. For many if not most women, it is not even an option.

The financial aspects are important but aren’t the only important thing to consider. I stayed home for several years. I wish I hadn’t. I think I was depressed, and I knew a number of SAHMs who were medicated for depression and anxiety. I’m happier working, but that’s just me. Watch for depression and anxiety, especially as your kids grow up and your role changes, and as you hit perimenopause, which can wreak havoc on your mind and body.

Just enjoy your life. All we really have is now. :)[/quote]

I agree in general with your post, but... do you also tell working people to watch out for signs of depression and anxiety? PLENTY of working women rely on antidepressants and anti anxiety meds, too. It's not like depression is unique to SAHM's.[/quote]

It's not unique to SAHMs, of course, but working a 9-5 imposes some order/purpose/social interaction on your everyday life that can be helpful.  As a SAHM, you have unstructured days, you're never really "off the clock," but at the same time there's not a lot of external validation for the (very hard) work you are doing, and it's easy to become isolated from other adults if you don't make an effort to socialize.

I know myself and even though I sometimes fantasize about quitting my job so I can focus all my energy on my kids and home (instead of feeling like I am failing at both work and home all the time), it would be a bad choice for my mental health.[/quote]

That’s you, and I can believe that. But again, not everyone has the same needs you do. Plenty of women are happier at home and miserable at work. And again, it’s just clear that so many working people also use antidepressants and anti anxiety drugs. Or they just drink or chain smoke to get through the day. We cannot pretend that the workplace is a mental health paradise for everyone - we all know that’s not true.[/quote]

For heaven’s sake…there are plenty of bored SAHM. Where the heck did you work that this is your impression of most work places? [/quote]

What? Are you implying there are not also bored people at work…?[/quote]

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