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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If my DH cheated or had a midlife crisis and left, I would definitely want people to know that. [/quote]

Then they will think..."what drove him to cheat?" It makes you look bad.

Stupid to air your dirty laundry. Super immature.[/quote]

What a creepy comment, akin to "what did she do beforehand to be raped"....

No one drives anyone to commit horrible behavior. A cheater is a immoral person who had the potential all along. Often those red flags are missed. I know I will never rob a bank because of the way I was raised and morals I possess. Cheaters and liars are are the only ones that look bad, not their victims fyi.

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Wrong. Sometimes people are terrible spouses and in transactional marriages. Men usually cheat in these instances. If there is literally no sex or withholding of sex as punishment for years then the man is not the only bad guy here. [/quote]

Funny how you assume the cheating man was not a driver in first creating a “transactional marriage” (ie offering no emotional support, care, proactive involvement, real conversations, etc.). Like he can’t fathom how behaving that way makes his spouse not think of him romantically. [/quote]

I am in is saying that sometimes there’s not a clear villain in a cheating scenario and sometimes both people contribute to the demise of the marriage if it was ever good to begin with. You’re way too focused on cheating or not cheating or whatever. Sometimes these scenarios are black-and-white and sometimes they are gray . Regardless, a reason for a divorce (where there is cheating or mental illness or alcoholism or emotional abuse or lack of respect or sexless or just a business transaction of a marriage, or a match to begin with who tried to make it work, disagreement about finances are starting a business or disagreements about in-laws and other family members or whatever,  is irrelevant to anybody except the people getting divorced. [/quote]

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