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OP here. I know for a fact that my kid isn’t abusing drugs or alcohol. And guess what— it doesn’t matter if my kid is feeling “stress” or “pressure” and needs to “preserve their mental health” from high school or college. The job market doesn’t wait for you to gather you to stop being stressed. My kid needs to learn to deal with the stress and pressure, push through, and get a good career started. Nothing else matters in college because the point of Columbia is social mobility. And they’re not doing that, which is frustrating beyond belief. They need to be the one that thrives in stressful situations because there’s no other way middle class kids can move up if they can’t deal with that. But clearly they can’t. I feel like I’ve done something very wrong in raising my kid. I’m in despair. [/quote]

Listen OP.  Reliance on a summer internship for a job after college is so middle class.  That is what public college kids do.  Your son's real leg up in life, other than obviously having Columbia on his resume, will be the other kids knows from Columbia.  His social network will be everything.  So stop focusing so much on the weeds that you miss the forest.  The best thing your son can do is get out there and meet people.  Make lots of friends.  They all have mommies and daddies at companies and firms, or who own them.  This year has been an off year too.  I cant imagine offices teaming with interns right now.

Also, I would get to know the rules about withdrawing from courses, like how late he can do it and retake so a bad grade won't stick.  Maybe he can retake classes he didn't do well in after grades posted for the year too.  Change major?  Can he talk to older students who might suggest easier courses to boost his GPA?  Frat guys?  Part of success in college and beyond is resourcefulness and working it.  Get in the solution, not obsessing over the problem.  [/quote]

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