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[quote=Anonymous]My mom was always upset  about this too when we went on vacation together. I'm in my 60s now.  My husband and I, and kids, are night owls,  while my parents were not. We were working full time, going to grad school, my husband  had 2 jobs,  we were up with kid's HW and activities, so vacation  for us was a huge mental break, but for them it was  a schedule of things, including  being on the beach by a certain 
time.    Sometimes we all willingly slept through  breakfast because  we finally  could.

Another vacation that they  actually paid for was Disney World,  $$$$$$, and we definitely met them for  earlier breakfast even though  I showed up with a huge flu after we were  driving  for  a day and a half to get there. I stayed  in the hotel room for 2 days and  slept  in the rest of the  days because I was really wiped and weak.  But I felt  guilty. We all felt guilty.

Here's what we all would  have differently now that it's over...they  are gone, we are older, our kids are adults, no grandkids yet. I would give anything to go back and have that time  with them,  have all of us together,  do things on the beach and  everywhere and anywhere. They aren't here to say that, but close to when  my Dad died he said something about wishing we could all go back in time  and not worry about  "dumb things" that "don't matter."

I think this is one of those things. It's a vacation. Meet in the middle,  let them sleep  a bit, they  are tired,  but set up things  you all agree to do together.  It won't be everything  or everyday-even if you  are footing the bill for missed breakfasts,  or whatever. You are together.  You are here now,  and  we don't know about  next year, right? Or five years, even. Those  kids will be grown and in college, not at the lake vacation with any of you. Just  blink and that's how fast it goes.You are on vacation  to be together, not to  eat  breakfast by 8.

Enjoy  this  summer. You are all together.

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